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4 tiny tips to overcome fear when making life changes

Change is scary for most people. Whether it is starting a business, moving to a new part of the country, or changing careers, the most difficult part is taking the first step.

Change is scary for most people. Whether it is starting a business, moving to a new part of the country, or changing careers, the most difficult part is taking the first step.

 

Here's how it all goes down:

  1. You have a dream; a goal you think you really want.
  2. It excites you. You visualize having it. You think of how your life will be when you reach it. Life is going to be great!
  3. You begin to plan the changes you need to make.
  4. All of a sudden, some issues appear. You begin to question: is this really for me? What do I do first? What if something goes wrong?
  5. It all seems so hard to do.
  6. You get stuck in indecision and self doubt
  7. Nothing changes!

Here are 4 tiny things you can do to face and overcome the fears holding you back. Realize fears can be disguised as self doubt.

 

Change one small habit each day for a week. Then, the following week, pick another one.

 

So much of what we do in our daily lives is mostly a habit. Habits get ingrained and even after they no longer serve us, we continue them. Same coffee stop in the morning? Try a different place. Same route to work or business? Go a different way.

 

Pick one small habit you do daily and deliberately do something different. Even something as simple as changing your morning routine can have you looking at things differently.

 

The new coffee stop may put you in contact with different people. The new route to your business may inspire an idea for a project.

 

Habits have a way of getting ingrained quickly though, so it is important to change at least one thing each week.

 

Ask yourself why the new goal you want is important to you. Are you passionate enough about it? Then, resolve to only pursue goals that serve you.

People do things sometimes because they feel they "should" be doing them. If you're a young married couple and everyone around you is buying their first house, you may feel pressured to do the same. However, you and your spouse are passionate about travelling the world. Buying a home at this time may not be in your best interest right now, as a house may take resources away from your travel budget. Renting may be your best option, giving you the freedom to move when your lease ends.

Clarifying your "why" is an important step. Your passion for your goal will pull you forward to achieving it.

 

What will be the unexpected rewards of reaching your goal? Make a list of 10 things you think may happen when you get there.

List 10 positive benefits you believe will happen when you reach your goal. I mention unexpected rewards or benefits because any life change will cause new things to happen, and many of them will be a result you may not even have thought about!

Perhaps your business is as a coder and developer. You decide to develop supply chain software for retail enterprises. You may intend that your ideal customer would be small web store businesses. After making your list, you may begin to see that larger industries would also benefit from your work.

 

If you put all the pieces in place for your goal, sit back and allow serendipity to work. Let the goal flow toward you instead of trying to control every aspect of it.

This is an important part of the process: letting go. Abundance will flow toward you. Trust the process!

Creative people use this trust concept often, finding inspiration in places that just suddenly appear. If you rely solely on facts and figures, while this is a good thing, allowing things to "happen" while maintaining an upbeat mindset will in due course draw your goal toward you.

Realize you can alter the goal at any time. Most things do not need to be set in stone. That means less fretting over details and just trying something new.

 

Go for it! I believe in you!

 

To your abundance with love, Suzanne

 

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